Tuesday, October 2, 2012
The Second Tuesday We Talk About Feeling Sorry for Yourself
Morrie tells Mitch that he sometimes feels sorry for himself in the mornings. Morrie would mourn what he had lost (bodily functions) and how he was dying. After a "few tears" though, he would stop and concentrate on all the good things in his life.
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Morrie, his disease worsening, says he only feels sorry for himself for a few minutes. After the few tears shed, he goes on with his day. He chooses to only view the positive aspects of his situation. Mitch does not understand Morrie’s perspective, but respects it. I believe Morrie is doing the right thing by not recognizing the flaws. In situations like this, courage is very important. If you mourn too much, you will only make yourself feel worst. I also recognized when Morrie said he was lucky. Although this sounds strange, compared to some others, he is lucky in one way. He has time to say his goodbyes and end his life ideally. Others are not notified when their day is nearing and miss out on many things.
ReplyDelete"He smiled. 'Not everyone is so lucky.' I studied him in his chair, unable to stand, to wash, to pull on his pants. Lucky? Did he really just say lucky?" ~Page 57
ReplyDeleteMorrie states, when asked by Mitch if he ever feels sorry for himself, that he wakes up in the morning, moves what he still can and cries and mourns for a small amount of time. Then, he thinks about what he still has and what is still good in his life and forgets about what the disease has destroyed. Morrie sees the disease in a way nobody else probably has. "...But it's also wonderful because of all the time I have to say good-bye."
Morrie takes a break to use the bathroom. As he's gone, Mitch decides to pick up a newspaper. The main headlines are terrible. They are both about murder. He puts the newspapers back down and Morrie returns.
Mitch realizes as he is lifting Morrie out of his wheelchair and into the recliner, that he is going to be dead soon.
Their time is running out.
Morrie is so intelligent. His mind is like pure gold! If I had Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS) I would never get out of bed. I would sit there like the dead corpse I would end up being. But Morrie is grateful for what hasn't devoured him yet, and that is just admirable. I agree with Morrie's assessment.
One of the most interesting things about the second Tuesday is that Morrie actually considers himself lucky. He knows that he is going to die from ALS yet he says "it is wonderful because of all the time I get to say good-bye."(pg. 57) I personally don't always find a way to look on the positive side of things. I especially wouldn't consider myself lucky if I had ALS. Sometimes, I need people to show me the positive side of a situation that I might think has gone horribly wrong.
ReplyDeleteMorrie shares two main pieces of insight on this particular Tuesday. He says to concentrate on all of the good things in life and to put a limit on self pity (pg. 57). I strongly agree with both of these statements. I think I will definitely try to change my life to be more like Morrie and try to always look at the positive in life. For me, I think that I have shown some people the positive side more than I have ever realized that there is a positive in my own situations. Yes, I agree with what Morrie says about this topic.
Morrie is dying from ALS and says that he is considered lucky.(page 57) Usually when someone says your lucky when you dodge a bullet or something that is close to killing you. Morrie on the other hand was hit with ALS and is still trying to live the everyday life as best to his intention. If I had ALS or something that I knew was going to kill me I would probably just worry about how close death is each day and night. On the other hand Morrie did say something that is very wise.(page 57) Morrie said that he only always himself some self pity in the morning. This to me personally is very encouraging to me by Morrie saying this because if you don't give yourself any pity and your that sick than your going to think then through out that everything will be fine, but then you will remember why your acting all happy a stop to think about "Why am I doing this" This will now change me to not just thinking to be positive, but also think about what else could happen. In other words I do agree what Morrie is saying.
ReplyDeleteThis is very surprising even though Morrie is diagnosed with ALS he believes that he is "lucky." Most people would be panicking in his position. He learns to live live with it he knows he's dieing slowly but he's okay with it. In life even in the toughest situations you need to stay positive. When you don't you just sit there an worry and you feel terrible. If I was him I would have to agree with him it helps to stay positive you can't let yourself down. It's amazing how he lives and he accepts that and enjoys as much as he can. I agree with Morrie in this statement.
ReplyDeleteStaying positive isn't always the easiest thing, especially when you know you're dying. Morrie says "I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life." Being able to stay positive about everything even though you don't have that much time to live is such an inspiration to me. I could never be as positive as Morrie is if I knew that ALS will take over my life.
ReplyDeleteEach day is a different day so you have to smile about something. Being positive can be really hard especially during tough times. Myself, is not a very positive person. When something goes wrong all I can think about is the negative side of it, and the "what if". How can someone be so positive when there are so many negatives? Morrie is that guy. He is such a strong positive guy even through the toughest times.
There are times when I do feel sorry for myself, whether it be a friend issue or a bad mood. I wish I wouldn't get this way, but I do and I guess that is just human nature. I feel that if Morrie has very little self-pity then I shouldn't pity myself for stupid reasons. When I read about how he is taking on his life, even with a terrible disease, I want to change the way I feel about myself. Yes, "Not everyone is lucky". That's just the way life is.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to feeling sorry for yourself, I agree with Morrie. I do not think you should sit around and cry about what you have lost or what you never had, you should get up and go do something about it. That is precisely what Morrie did. He would cry for a little bit, but then he would stop and he would go and live his life as normally as he could. So many people waste their time crying over things they do not have. Morrie, with only a little time left, could not afford to waste any of it. I do not think it should take a life- threatening experience or illness to make people realize this. Morrie said that he was lucky that he had the chance to tell everyone goodbye, because most people do not get the chance. He is right. I think that the idea he has in his head helps keep his hopes up. He knows that even though he is dying, he gets to spend his last moments with the people he cares most about.
ReplyDeleteMorrie can't really do anything for himself anymore. There are still a few things, like writing and eating, but even those are starting to become a challenge for him. Despite this, he is somehow managing to keep looking on the brighter side of life. If I were going through what he was going through, I'd have probably taken a different route and become a withered shell of the person I am now. There wouldn't even be an adjective to describe how sorry I would feel for myself if I was going through what Morrie is going through. So for him to only spend a few minutes each day to mourn his numerous losses is pretty remarkable. It is because of this feat that, from now on, I will try to remember Morrie and what he is suffering through before I go feeling sorry for myself about something that is no where near as terrible.
ReplyDeleteYou ARE allowed to pity yourself for what fate has done to you, but only to a definitive extent. There's a difference between sorrow and selfishness. You can mourn for a short while, then you must step away and look around. Find everything you have to be thankful for from your life and experiences. Count how many good things have come from the bad. You'll be surprised at how many there are. Confront your problems during the day, reflect and mourn in the evening, then go to bed. When you wake up, learn something. Turn that new leaf over and start down the unknown trail that the future has for you. But map your own directions along that trail to your goals.
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ReplyDeleteMorrie says that he is lucky, even though he is just a few short months away from perishing. He makes this statement because he has time to say his goodbyes and reflect on his life. Morrie is optimistic even in the worst situations as everyone should be. He does allow himself time to mourn, but not too much. If you spend your final days only reminiscing on the bad things in life, you will drown yourself in your own sorrows.
ReplyDeleteBeing positive and staying positive aren't the easiest thing to do when things such as Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS) comes into your life. First you think your life is falling apart but that's not true, sometimes you need to work pass that and think about present and what you can still do. Don't look back, just keeping going forward. "Live life to the fullest." I always think of that to stay positive when things go bad...and something's have in my life and some will never be the same...but then I realize my present lifestyle is okay now even though some parts of the past were hard, they got better. It will always get better you just need to stay positive and it'll be okay, and it's also okay to feel sorry for yourself at times too but you also need to stay strong at the same time. Life Lesson: #6 "Laugh until your body aches, cry until you start to shake, live like the world is yours to take and love as though your heart won't break." this is a perfect life lesson, if anyone is feeling done you should read this lesson and think about the better things in life. I think that quote relates to this Tuesday in many ways.
ReplyDeleteOn page 56, Morrie says he only pities himself in the mornings for a short period of time. He says "I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life." I am being a hypocrite right now because when I'm sad I can only focus on the bad, but when you're upset the best thing to do is focus on the good. When my cousin broke her foot many years ago, my pap always told her to not focus on her broken foot, but remember that she still has another good one and soon, the broken one would heal. When I think about it, my grandfather was a lot like Morrie. He was bedridden for the last 6 years of his life before his disease got the best of him, but he stayed optimistic the entire time, just like Morrie. When it comes down to it, you always have to try your hardest to focus on the good things you have in your life.
ReplyDeleteLook past the bad things in life. It is ok to feel sorry for yourself but don’t think about all the time. Look towards the better things in life. Find things you’re happy and thankful for. Like Morrie with his ALS, he does not pity himself 24/7 at times he does but only for a short while. To keep his mind off the bad part of ALS, he talks about it, he spends the rest of his time with people he cares about such as Mitch, and he even speaks about how lucky he is to tell everyone goodbye. Instead of making something negative in your life, think about how it has made you a more positive person.
ReplyDeleteOn the second day with Morrie I feel as if Mitch is getting closer and closer to the person he wishes he could be, by not working and having all that time to let what Morrie is telling him to digest is helping Mitch in a way. They talk about feeling sorry. Mitch asked Morrie if he does and Morrie replied "only a couple minutes" which shows just how strong Morrie is. Me on the other hand, with my knee after surgery, I could barely move it, and I tried and tried for hours all ending in failure and then realizing and thinking to myself that some people in this world such as Morrie are unable to move at all.. I just wanted to give up and I felt so helpless.. (Even though I'm not dying) it just astonishes me how positive he has an outlook on his future.
ReplyDeleteFeeling self pity is something I think we all do and don't even realize it. Think about everything you take for granted someone doesn't have all the things you have yet they are still happy.The second Tuesday Morrie talks about everything that has changed in his life. He's not able to do thing like he used to, one of his helpers do most of those tasks now. Morrie looks away from the bad and just focuses on the good things he still has left. "I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life" I'm not sure how Morrie stayed so positive throughout this, cause I know I wouldn't be strong enough. I'm glad he did because now I have someone to look up to when I'm down in the dumps.
ReplyDeleteThe second Tuesday Morrie talks about everything that has changed in his life. His disorder has caused him much sorrow, but he strives to work through it. He refuses to be depressed. If it were me, it would take every ounce of strength I have not to become depressed. But he made it. The few tears he sheds each day last only for a moment, and then he goes on with his day. His sorrow his masked with his optimism. He remains strong and he refuses to pity himself.
ReplyDeleteMorrie sates that he only allows himself to mourn for his losses for a short time in the morning, and then if needed a small cry. He says that is all the self pity he allows himself, a little each morning. He says to concentrate on the good things that life is giving you. Also that things are only horrible if you look at them that way. This is true for everything. If you just concentrate on the bad things in life nothing good will ever happen. Yet if you concentrate on the good things, even if they come from bad things, you will be happy and more good things will happen. Morrie is doing the right thing here, if you only focus on the bad things in life you will forget all the good times you had and you will die grumpy and miserable. Although if you focus on the good and remember the bad occasionally you will die at peace and remember your life in all of the positive things.
ReplyDeleteMitch realizes that the rest of the world feels too sorry for themselves when he is told that Morrie feels sorry for himself for only a few minutes in the morning. He realizes that the it would be so good for people to do the same as Morrie and mourn for only a few minutes every morning and then just enjoy the rest of the day, and it's true. The world would be so much better if people didn't dwell on their failures and look on the bright side, even if it is a cliché. Morrie did it, and he had ALS.
ReplyDeleteIn this "class," Morrie and Mitch talk about feeling sorry for yourself. Morrie tries to never feel sorry for himself, even though he is dying. Morrie looks at the good things in his life to prevent being depressed. The truth is you could go your whole life feeling sorry for yourself, or you could get up and look at the good things about your life. Feeling sorry for yourself doesn't help you in any way. You have to accept your disability and learn how to live with it, as Morrie would say. Sometimes, i do feel sorry for myself, but you gotta move on, and find a way to make it better.
ReplyDeleteIt's okay for the world to pity the dying because they feel that the person is loosing everything they every believed in without doing much with their life. Most people don't feel that Morrie has lived his life to the fullest. But even though Morrie was a professor, he was surrounded by people that loved him and cared for him because of his disease. His students loved him like he was apart of their families and even though he was dying from ALS it brought them all even closer.
ReplyDeleteSometimes staying positive in tough situations is not always easy. However, dwelling on the negative in your life will make you miss out on all the positive things in life. Even though Morrie is stuck with ASL he considers himself lucky. If I was in his situation I would not consider myself "lucky." Morrie looks on the bright side and realizes it could be worse, and he actually gets time to say goodbye. Usually, when I am in a tough situation I never see the positive things. Morrie says that you should concentrate on the good things life has given you. This is true for mostly everything. When I reach old age I want to be able to remember all the good things in my life rather than all the negative events and situations. If I had to go through what Morrie went through I would have lost all hope and would have never looked on the positive side. I would have died miserably. After reading the second Tuesday, I believe Morrie is right. It is okay to feel sorry for yourself to an extent, but you should not mourn too much. From now on I have to make sure I look at all the positive things in life, so I don't die remembering all the negative things. If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.
ReplyDeleteMany people aren't as strong as Morrie to put limits on their self-pity like he does. The only way you can do that is to think positively and not negatively. Thinking positive is something I do most everyday. Think about the things you have instead of the things you don't. It's good to think like Morrie in this way and not feel sorry for yourself most of your life. Especially when you are old like Morrie and dying you don't want to die with all of the bad thoughts on yourself in your head. Mitch seemed surprised that Morrie considered himself lucky even though ALS affected him every day. I think what Morrie meant is that he was lucky to have such an early warning since most people die without knowing and this gave him the chance to say goodbye and to live a better life style. I agree with Morrie that you have to think of what you can do because if you think you can't then you won't. Don't let other people pull you away from thinking positive either, such as when Mitch started to read the newspaper and saw the stories of murder in it. Yes there are many things on this earth to look down upon but that doesn't mean you have to look down on yourself. Be the better person like Morrie and make a change. I would like to be like Morrie and give advice and make a change myself one day too. I can only start by thinking positive.
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ReplyDeleteMorrie, on the second Tuesday, talks about feeling bad for yourself with Mitch. He says, " I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life." In order to live a happy life we can't spend every waking moment feeling bad for ourselves. We need to think about all of the good things that are happening in our lives at the time. If we spend all of our time mourning over all of the horrible things in our lives it will just make us more unhappy and depressed, while if we think about all of the good things we can at least try to make the best of it. Morrie's idea of putting a limit on the time that you can fell bad for yourself is a smart thing to do. Everybody feels bad for themselves once in a while, but we need to stop thinking about the bad things and appreciate all of the good things happening in our lives.
ReplyDeleteFinding the positive in every situation isn’t always the easiest thing to do. Morrie is a lot stronger than most people in that sense. He only allows himself a few minutes of crying and grieving every morning. It is important to find a fine balance between not feeling sorry for yourself at all and pitying yourself incessantly. Mourning is a natural thing, but you need to stop crying eventually and focus on all the positive things in your life. A lot of times, people think that their circumstances are so awful that there can’t be anything good in their life. I believe that they’re just not taking the time to really think about and appreciate everything that they have. I tend to overlook some of the positive aspects of my life. If I was in Morrie’s situation, I wouldn’t be able to set limits on my mourning like he did. I would be so caught up in my approaching death that I would essentially waste my final days. Morrie said, “It’s only horrible if you see it that way.” He sees the positive in his terminal illness. Morrie realizes that his ALS gives him enough time to say his final good-byes. I know that I wouldn’t recognize that positive aspect if I was in his position. Changing the way that you look at things can do you a world of good.
ReplyDeleteMorrie' s body seems to be getting worse everyday but still manages to keep a smile on his face. "I give myself a good cry if need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things in my life," says Morrie. I think this is a wonderful thing to do. You shouldn't always focus on all the negative things in life but instead think of all the positives and wonderful things that have happened. Life is to short to always be feeling sad for yourself and mourning about things. It probably is very hard for Morrie to see that everyday his body becomes weaker and he loses the ability to do things. Like always though Morrie still manages to keep a smile on his face even though he is suffering through Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS). He says, " It's horrible to watch my body slowly wilt away to nothing. But it's also so wonderful because all of the time I get to say good-bye." This Tuesday I think we can learn that you shouldn't always think about the negative things in life but go to the positive.
ReplyDeleteEven though Morrie has ASL, he considers himself lucky. If I were him, I would never even think to call myself lucky. Morrie is right though. It could always be worse. However, it is okay to feel sorry for yourself a little bit. It is more important to look at the positive things in life rather than the negative things. If everyone always looked at the bad things in life then we can never focus on the important positive things. When I am experiencing a problem, I usually always look on the bad side. Thinking about it now, I realize that is a horrible thing to do. Why would I want to die remembering all the negative things in my life? I definitely do not. If I start to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts then I will see positive results.
ReplyDeleteFeeling bad for yourself for a short amount of time is a good thing. If you always feel bad about yourself though it will take away from the good things that are happening in your life. Morrie wants to spend more time being happy saying goodbye than having pity on himself. He feels this way because he knows that there is nothing that can save him and he doesn't want the little time he has left to be spent being depressed. I always try to put the negative things behind me but I'm not really sure that I could put a limit on self pity like Morrie did if I had the same disease as him.
ReplyDeleteWhen I read the Second Tuesday, I realized that being sorry for yourself is okay. Not all things go the way you want them to go and if you want to feel bad because of it you're allowed. When I first read that Morrie only mourned for himself a few minutes each morning I was shocked. Normally when something bad happens to you, you feel like it's the end of the world and you only think about the bad things going on. Morrie doesn't. He lives each day knowing that he has time to say goodbye to everyone that comes his way. I agree with Morrie when he says he's lucky. There are so many people that don't get to say goodbye. They leave the rest of the world behind not knowing what people thought of them. Morrie knows all of that though. He's lucky in that he gets to leave knowing that he made an impact on many lives. I hope when I'm old I get the chance to say goodbye to as many people as I can.
ReplyDeleteFeeling bad for yourself is not always a good thing, but also isn't always a bad thing. Feeling bad for yourself doesn't help you out most of the time. I don't like to feel bad for myself because, it messes your thought, and actions up. Sometimes though a little sadness can bring out something even better in you. Like Morrie when you think of the bad things that have happened to you, then it allows you to remember the good things that have happened.
ReplyDeleteOn the second Tuesday Morrie refers to himself as "lucky." It's hard to believe someone with such a terrible disease could consider themselves lucky. I think that Morrie is right in saying it is ok to have self-pitty. Morrie admits that he does cry and mourn some morning, but never for long periods of time. I believe he is right in doing that. If you have a problem or something you are upset with you shouldn't spend every hour of the day sitting there feeling sorry for yourself. On the other hand it is also okay to be upset at times too. When something happens to me or if I run into a problem i tend to always look on the negative side. Hearing Morrie say that he takes a little time out of his day to cry or be upset if he needs to, then looks at all the positive things make me realize that I should do that more often too. It's not good to dwell on the negative, yet it is better to be optimistic.
ReplyDeleteMorrie is a very optimistic man. He is always looking on the positive side of his situations, such as his disease. In the mornings, Morrie would give himself a good cry, but then go about his day and look at all the good things he still has in life. Mourning is a natural process that we all go through in life. I think as humans we tend to look more on the negative sides of our lives, instead of looking at what is in front of us, and people around. I think that Morrie can teach us a very good lesson. You can feel bad for yourself, but not for an expended period of time. After so long, we become depressed and our minds tend to stay in a storm cloud, instead of reaching for the sun. After so long of feeling bad for yourself, you should look at what is all around you, because if a suffering man with ALS can do it. then we can do it too.
ReplyDeleteOn the second Tuesday with Morrie is seems to be that his disease is getting worse and he is loosing more function of his body. Morrie explains that he gets upset in the mornings whenever he wakes up because he moves all the parts of his body that works. Morrie tells Mitch that he doesn't allow himself to feel sorry for himself. He says the more you think about the positive the better you will feel and basically the less you think about the sad parts in your life. Mitch seemed disturbed by the newspaper Morrie has because it was about peoples death. Then whenever he offered to help Morrie get to the chair he realized that he didn't have a lot of time left with Morrie and he had to do something about it because he likes visiting him.
ReplyDeleteMorrie has this terrible disease, but does not allow himself to mourn that long. He only feels sorry for himself for a few minutes in the morning. When he does, he always focuses on the good things in his life and then stops. There are many people in the world who spend every day feeling sorry for themselves when they are way better off than Morrie was. They are too busy focusing on what isn`t right in their lives, and ignoring all the good. We have all had a bad things happen to us before, but we can`t let those things stop us. Morrie has the right idea, its ok to feel sorry for yourself, but don`t let it consume you. It all depends on how you look at the situation. There is always going to be something good going for you. People need to try to be more like Morrie, who managed to stay happy even while he was dying.
ReplyDeleteOn the second Tuesday Morrie and Mitch talk about feeling sorry for yourself. When you wake up in the morning you should only give yourself a few minutes to feel sorry. Then you can go about the rest of your day happy. I feel as though if you spend too much time feeling sorry for yourself you won't be able to truly see all the good things you have in life. You won't be able to notice all the people that really care about you.
ReplyDeleteMorrie only allows himself a short period of time in the morning to feel sorry for himself. He then chooses to move on with his day. He even says he is lucky that he has so much time to say goodbye (page 57). If you choose to sit around and feel sorry for yourself, and all you ever choose to see are the bad things in life, then all you're going to get are bad things. Morrie chooses to see the good things. Even though he is dying he still looks on the bright side. He has every right to feel sorry for himself. When you go through a difficult time, you have every right to sit down and cry for hours about how much your life sucks, but that can't be the only thing you ever do. Morrie isn't self centered or overly dramatic for being upset about dying. He's hurting, and that's okay.
ReplyDeleteEven though Morrie knows he is dying due to ALS he still considers himself "lucky." On the second Tuesday he says, "It's horrible to watch my body slowly wilt away to nothing. But it's also wonderful because of all the time I get to say good-bye," (page 57). This tells me Morrie is trying to outweigh all of the negatives with positives. Although he does say that he lets out a few tears for pity, that doesn't mean he still is not concentrating on the good. To me, it sounds like those tears are what helps him pull himself together. He knows that rather than mourning over dying he has to make the best out of the time he has left on this earth. Most people who find out they are dying decide to take the negative route of mourning, and this where Morrie did not go wrong. All of us could learn something from what Morrie is telling us. Instead of crying and mourning over your death live your life to the fullest so that when you do pass away you pass away with no regrets.
ReplyDeleteWhen Mitch asks Morrie if he feels sorry for himself and morrie says that he does in the mornings and thats when he mourns and cries, this kinda shows that he knows that he needs to let out his emotions and he does. After that he says that after he cries he thinks about his life and realizes he should be happy because of all the good things that he has. He thens says not everyone can be as lucky as him and i think that if he thinks that that almost everyone should feel lucky.
ReplyDeleteOn page 56-57 Morrie states “That’s when I mourn. I feel around my body, I move my fingers and my hands-whatever I can still move-and I mourn what I’ve lost. I mourn the slow, insidious way in which I’m dying. But then I stop mourning.” Just like that, Morrie stops feeling sorry for himself. From this statement, I feel like I learn a lot about Morrie. From this, I get that even though Morrie is upset that he is dying, he focuses on the good things in life. He is a “the glass is half full” type of guy. Even though he can really do nothing but sit in a chair, talk, write, and eat, he still feels like he is lucky because he has a lot of time to say goodbye to the people he loves. I do agree that I would rather have time to say goodbye to my loved ones then to just drop dead without any warning, but I do not think that I could say that I am lucky, I do fear the concept of death, but it does not seem like Morrie feels the same way.
ReplyDeleteMy eyebrows jumped up when Morrie considered himself lucky. Morrie loves the time he has to talk to his loved ones and friends to say goodbye. Being optimistic when you have a fatal disease must be difficult, but calling yourself lucky must be even more hard. Now here is something we all need to pay attention to. The main topic of this Tuesday is feeling sorry for ourselves. Mitch asked Morrie if he felt sorry for himself. To my surprise Morrie almost never mourns about what has happened to him. Morrie said he mourns in the mornings sometimes. Everyone should look at Morrie as the prime example of a "tough person." Morrie has ALS, a fatal disease which is going to take his life. I know I would feel sorry for myself. I feel sorry for myself in the dumbest situations and scenarios sometimes. When I could not go on vacation one time, I felt so sorry for myself and pouted like a little baby. I want to be like Morrie when it comes to being "tough" and mentally strong. One of my favorite parts of this subject is when Morrie says, "I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life." Concentrating on the good of this world's adversities is quite an accomplishment.
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ReplyDeleteI think what Morrie is saying is that self pity isn't something bad, but it isn't good either. It helps take away some emotions that may bother you throughout your day, which is why Morrie wakes up and mourns in the morning. He doesn't want his valuable days to be taken over with him mourning all day. Everyone, no matter how old, should be focused on both good and bad things in their lives. Without focusing on the bad things, you may not look back and then finally realize what better things to do to improve your future. On the other hand, too much focusing on bad things can make you very miserable. I think you need to have a balance of both to live a good life.
ReplyDeleteThe first thing that Morrie and Mitch discuss during the second Tuesday is feeling sorry for yourself. This is brought up when Mitch asks Morrie if he feels sorry. Morrie says that he allows himself to feel sorry by crying in the morning when he wakes up. He says he feels sorry for his body that he cant control anymore. But only in the morning. After he lets it out, he moves on and begins to realize how "lucky" he is. I'm guessing the reason he feels lucky is because, now that he is dying, he realized how little time he has to do the things he wanted to do so he's doing them now! plus, now that he knows that he is dying, he can say goodbye to everyone in advance. But I honestly don't understand how you could feel lucky if you were in the condition that he is in. I wouldn't be able to handle it. But I guess it proves how healthy Morrie's state of mind is. That really is pretty wonderful.
ReplyDeleteOn The Second Tuesday Morrie and Mitch talk about feeling sorry for you self. In life I think that it is ok to feel sorry for yourself sometimes, but if you do it all the time you do not see the little things in life that you can be enjoying. On page 56 Mitch asked Morrie if he ever feels sorry for himself. Morrie replies, "Sometimes in the mornings, that's when I mourn." Also on page 57 Morrie says "I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life." In this quote you can tell that Morrie even though he has a rough life with ALS he still enjoys the things he has left.
ReplyDeleteThey are now talking about feeling sorry for yourself. I think it is okay to feel sorry for yourself sometimes, now if you sit in your room all day and do it you won't be able to see the happy things that are in life, Morrie sometimes cries a little if he needs it as stated on page 57, and just like I said he starts to think about the good things that are in life. "Mitch, I dont allow myself any more self-pity than that. A little each morning a few tears and that's all" says Morrie. That is okay, as long as you dont do it all day just like some people Morrie knew.
ReplyDeleteOn The Second Tuesday Morrie and Mitch talk about feeling sorry for yourself and mourning. I feel that having a little self-pitty is okay. Honestly, I feel like it can help you get through the hard times. Having too much self-pitty though, can keep you thinking about the bad things in your life and will not let you look past them all. If you are in a horrible situation mourning over it too much is not going to help anything. Thinking about all of the positive things in your life can make your life a lot happier. Morrie talks about how he is lucky. When I first read that, I thought it sounded a little crazy. How could could someone with such a horrible disease think of himself to be lucky? I thought about it for a while and I guess you can actually say he is lucky. Yes, he is in a bad situation but he is still alive. He still gets to see all of the people he loves, even if he knows he will not be here for much longer. He gets to look at life through a different way, a unique way.
ReplyDeleteOn the second Tuesday Mitch asks Morrie if he ever feels sorry for himself. Morrie says that he does but only for a few minutes, then he focuses on good things. I feel that this is a very important part of life. Also as the great people of Monty Python said, "Always look on the bright side of life." I feel that more people need to stop focusing on the bad things that are happening and realize how many more good things they are in life.
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DeleteAlso I feel that if you look on the bright side of life that you will be happier and make you a better person
It is the second Tuesday that Morrie and Mitch meet. They talk about regrets. Morrie's condition is worsening. Mitch can see this. He observed Morrie get frustrated when he could barely move a bell to call for one of the home care workers. When this happens, Mitch asks if Morrie ever felt sorry for himself. Morrie tells him that he only does in the mornings for a couple minutes. Tears flow and he thinks about his condition, but then he focuses on the positive things in life. This is a smart thing to do. Bad things happen, it's true. But, that does not mean you focus on that. As Morrie does, look towards the positive in life. Yes, there's something negative in your life, but think of all the positive, too. Thinking of that one bad thing isn't good. All you'll do is focus on that, and then you will be one miserable person. Be happy! Morrie for instance considers himself lucky that he can say goodbye. Imagine you never got to say goodbye to a friend, and that friend afterwards disappeared. Wouldn't you regret not being able to say goodbye to that person?
ReplyDeleteThe Second Tuesday, when Mitch and Morrie have their second class together, is about feeling sorry for yourself. I know a lot of people who pity themselves and it is really sad. But, as Morrie, he had only moments where he thought that his life is horrible and devastating, then he would think his life was full of excitement and happiness. And Morrie is feeling blessed and happy he has enough time to visit those impacting his life enormously and positively. I sometimes cry when I am really sick and I think my life is going to end because I haven't gotten any better, but then I realized I should live my life to the fullest, just like Morrie did with dancing and being a professor. Morrie had realized he is very grateful he has time to say goodbye to his loved ones. Although, when my uncle had died, I was sad because I haven't seen him in 6-7 months. And I think Morrie is very lucky he has time to say good-bye, unlike my uncle, even though he has ALS. I realized self-pity strengthens your tough times because you think of your happy times also. Morrie is aware he shouldn't spend the rest of his life pitying himself, therefore he spends less time worrying and more time enjoying. This made me recognize life as a long dance that can last forever. Or a symphony where the up's and down's can happen. Morrie has a chance to glimpse different and important things during his slow death.
ReplyDeleteI believe feeling sorry for yourself is ok to do in moderation. One should set a limit to feeling sorry for yourself just as Morrie did. If someone pities themselves excessively, they will waste the majority of their time. Before one realizes it they will spend all day pitieing theirselves. It is okay to have occasional pity for ones self, but you must move on. Another important point is to not always look at the bad things in life, but rather look upon the happy moments. Having read this, I wish to be as positive as Morrie, and not constantly feel sorrow for myself.
ReplyDeleteOn the second Tuesday, Morrie tells Mitch that he feels bad for himself in the mornings, but eventually gets over it and continues his day. If hee feels like he needs to cry then he does. But he then realizes that there are better and more important things that he needs to focus on. If you think about it, everyone has felt sorry about themselves. Most of the time we feel sorry if we said something to someone and they took it as an insult. Morrie has a terminal illness that he knows he's gonna die from, but he still keeps a positive attitude and somehow forgets about it.
ReplyDeleteWhen Morrie talks about feeling sorry fro yourself, it really got me thinking. It's not bad to feel sorry for yourself, but don't take it to the extreme. Everyone has felt sorry for themsleves at some point in their lives. It is okay. Morrie says he only is sad in the mornings and eventually gets over it. I agree with him, feeling sorry for yourself doesn't have to ruin your day! I always tell myself that it could be worse. Which in retrospect, it could. Morrie could just sit home all day and mope around and cry, but he chooses to live his life to what he can do and keeps a positive attitude. Thats what I like most about Morrie.
ReplyDeleteMorrie talks about feeling sorry for himself. He says he mourns in the morning for a little, but he also calls himself lucky in this situation. He cries because he realizes his ALS is getting worse and bad things are happening. Then he looks at the good things in life that overpower the bad things and realizes he I lucky that he doesn't have something worse than what he has. All the good things in life make him a lucky man to have the life he has and he realizes the bad things could be a lot worse. Overall this means that there are many bad things in life that you could mourn over, but when you look at all of the good things that have happened in your life, you realize they overpower the bad things and you just smile about it.
ReplyDelete"Live life to the fullest" can accurately describe what Morrie is doing. He is embracing life and the time he has with his family and friends. He may be suffering ALS, but he is very positive. Although the crying is continuous, why shouldn't it be? Anyone who is as strong as Morrie deserves to shed a tear. He is still alive but is getting worse day by day. Yes, he feels bad for himself but I don't blame him. His life is coming to an end. He can't walk, he can hardly eat, and he can't even use the restroom on his own. Morrie used to be capable of so much now it all came to an end. Mitch is just as sorry for Morrie as he is for himself. He did not even bring a phone to the class, so that way he can't be distracted in any way. Morrie still looks at the good things he has in life though. He notices the past and what it has done to him. It has all made him a stronger person. All in all even when things get bad, look at the past and all of the great things you have been involved with. Your life will end sooner or later.
ReplyDeleteMorrie knows he is going to die, and he feels sorry for himself. But only for a few moments in the morning. Then he goes on with his day appreciating the time he has left. I agree with Morrie, for his way of feeling sorry for himself. The more time you feel sorry for yourself, the less time you have to notice the positive things in your life. Feeling sorry for yourself, puts you in a depression. When you know you don't have much time left, you do not want to spend it being sad and depressed. Spend the time you have left, with your loved ones and noticing the little and wonderful things if life. Love and live your life to the fullest, you can not change it no matter how long you sit around feeling sorry for yourself.
ReplyDeleteMorrie says that he only feels sorry for himself in the mornings. Once and a while Morrie has a good cry, but no too often because he sees himself as being lucky. He is lucky because he gets a lot of time to say goodbye. If one of my family members was dying I feel like they would not be completely happy. I think they would feel sorry for themselves, but would also be happy because of all the time they got to spend with the rest of the family. I agree with Morrie, but if I were in his position I am not sure if I would feel the same way. I hope I am never in his shoes, but I would hope to be in the same mind-set as Morrie.
ReplyDeleteOn the second Tuesday of Albom and Schultz's meetings, Mitch asked if Morrie ever feels sorry for himself because of the physical state he was in. Morrie replied, "Mitch, I don't allow myself any more self-pity than that. A little each morning, a few tears, that is all." I think what he was trying to explain here was you can not live a prominent life while you pity yourself. You can not live with that sorrow. Living without self-pity allows you to get more out of life. I believe, as well, feeding on self-pity locks you up and does not allow you to have fun in your life.
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